If you ever have been lied to or yourself have lied sometimes, maybe you are wondering if you or that other person is having characteristics of a pathological liar. Only a few of people are called pathological liars. But why? What makes them the way they are? It depends on the frequency, enclosing situations, the level of exaggeration, details, causes and other factors. It can be hard to recognize one, but we will list some of the most common features of a pathological liar.
Who Is Pathological Liar?
It can be presented in frequent lying without any motives or benefits. It is compulsive and hard to control. It happens on a regular basis and the person doesn’t see the consequences due to imposed lie. Some people lie for the sake of their benefit which results in positive effects. A pathological liar does not think about consequences and is uncontrolled. It can be linked with some certain behavior like gambling, kleptomania, substance abuse and family overprotection, mental retardation and others, but it depends on many factors.
Common Types Of Pathological Liars
- Daydreaming Pathological Liar – Pseudologia Fantastica. This is the type which is linked with fiction and fantasy stories. He makes up stories to make the drama and reaction. He can change the stories if he believes that the audience doesn’t have a true impression of him. It can be driven by a low self-esteem or insecurity.
- Habitual Liar. The name says it all – it becomes the habit, a reflex and he can’t control it or does little thinking into it.
- Impulsive Pathological Liar. He can have other impulsive problems like kleptomania, gambling, shopping, substance abuse.
- Substance Abuse Associated Pathological Liar. People who abuse alcohol or certain drugs can run from their feelings, conflicts with others, etc.
Most Common Causes Of Pathological Lying
- Dysfunctional family
- Sibling rivalry
- Parental overprotection
- Genetic disorders (dyslexia, cerebral dysfunctions)
- Substance abuse
- Compulsive shopping
- Sexual abuse
- Personality disorders (narcissist, sociopath)
- Low self-esteem
- Manipulative behavior
- Socially isolated, awkward
How To Recognize Pathological Liar?
There is some sign from which you can detect a pathological liar. They can be visual like body movement or verbally expressed in a certain way of talk or type of communication.
- Steady head without movement
- Disguised smile
- Movements that work as a self-adaptors such as playing with an object
- High pitch voice
- Slow pace of speech
- Use of pause words such as “hm”, “uh”, “er”
- Pronounced words don’t correspond to hand movement
Tips And Tricks How To Detect A Pathological Liar
Looking For Attention?
Pathological liars usually want to be in the middle of attention and to feel significant and under the spotlights. If they tell a story, they will exaggerate the details in the story to get the people’s attention and sympathy. They want to feel important so they will concoct stories about their accomplishments. It doesn’t matter if it’s their career or their personal life, they will tell a story about how they are superior or they will invent some past experiences to impress the audience. They can be insecure, so their stories are there to make them feel good about themselves or can make them amused due to the reaction of the people if they feel bored.
How Does A Pathological Liar React If You Caught Him Lying?
He might get defensive and defend himself or try to blame someone else for his lies. Because they can’t control their impulses, they may say another lie to cover the old one. They tend to say bigger lies if they feel that their audience is not reacting in a way they wanted. They can also get angry and burst into tears to show his sincerity and disappointment in someone else’s doubt in him.
He Might Have Certain Secret Behavior
People with certain behavior are more prone to pathological lying. They can have a drug addiction, eating disorders like anorexia or bulimia, gambling problems, or even some personality disorders such as narcissistic, borderline personality disorders. They need professional help such as group therapies or other types of treatment. If this is the cause, you have to treat the underlying problem.
They Can Seem To Live In An Unrealistic World
A pathological liar has a problem not only with himself but with other people in his surrounding too. He may have a problem with his family where he acts alienated and distant. He might go away from his family and reduce the communication. He can also have other relationships disorder where he cannot maintain one due to excessive lying and expectations. He can establish new acquaintances, but he has issues with keeping them. He can act unrestrained and intemperate and might change jobs often. They can not make a commitment to the job, nor the people.