Asking a girl out on a date sounds like an easy thing to do. All you have to do is just go up to her and ask! Right? Wrong. Although we wish it was that easy, it’s really not as simple as just asking her a question. If you want her to agree to go on a date with you, you’ll have to follow these guidelines.
Girls are really complicated. If you do one thing that isn’t up to their standards or they think poorly of, you’ll most likely lose out on going on a date with her. Now, there are plenty of ways you can ask her and make sure she says yes.
But you’ll need our help with that. If you really want to ask a girl on a date and not be a total bag of nerves, you’ll need some of these tips. Here are all the Dos and Don’ts of asking a girl on a date in order to ensure that you get an excited, “Yes!” when you finally ask.
Asking a girl out is serious business and you want to make sure you’re doing everything right. So here is everything you DO need to be doing in order to make it easier and to get that “yes”.
Make Sure She Knows You Like Her
If a girl feels blindsided when asked on a date, it may prompt her to say no simply because she’s caught off guard and hasn’t had time to even process that you like her. So before you ask her out, do make sure she knows that you’re interested in her in some way. You can do this by flirting with her, complimenting her, and even telling her that you dig her.
Be Sure She’s Single
This is just standard. You can’t ask out a girl who already has a boyfriend. You should know that she’s available before asking her out because if you don’t, she’ll be offended and feel really awkward – which isn’t good for anyone. She’ll turn you down and then may be weird around you going forward.
Find Out if She Likes You
If you can, try and figure out if she likes you. This can easily be done by watching the way she acts around you. If she’s nervous, making herself look great whenever you’re around, or flirting with you often, she probably does. This is the green light you need to ask her out.
Look and Smell Your Best
Getting a “yes” when you ask a girl out is always made more likely if you attempt to look your best. Girls appreciate when guys make an effort to look good and if she notices that you have and then you ask her out, she’ll be more likely to go out with you. Smelling nice is an added bonus because it’ll make her want to be around you a lot. Good hygiene is always a great idea when you’re thinking about asking a girl out.
Start a Conversation First
Don’t just walk up to a girl and ask her on a date out of nowhere. This is weird and she’ll be taken by surprise – which isn’t a good thing when you’re asking for a first date. If you’ve laid down the groundwork, you should be able to strike up a conversation with her fairly easily. Make sure you’re actually paying attention to what she’s saying and that you care about the conversation. Then you can smoothly transition it into talking about her interests before asking her out on a date.
Confidence goes a long way in ensuring that you’ll get that first date. People feel off of other people’s emotions and if you’re feeling confident and sure of yourself, she’ll feel that and will want more of it. If you suffer from low self-esteem, work on bettering it before asking for a date. Either that, or learn how to at least pretend like you’re the most confident person she’s ever known. If you walk into the room and talk to her with immense confidence, she’ll want to go out with you.
Get Her Alone
This is important when asking someone out on a date. No girl wants to be asked out in front of a ton of people. It’s a lot of pressure and it’ll make her nervous. Make it so the two of you are having a conversation alone before asking her out on a date. This way, she’ll be comfortable, relaxed, and able to make a decision she’s happy with. Basically, it’ll be more likely that she’ll say yes alone than in a large group.
Ask Her Somewhere You Know She Likes
Don’t just ask her if she wants to go on a date with you. Ask her on a specific date and make it somewhere you know she really wants to go. If her favorite band is playing in your area, make sure you get tickets and take her there! Just make sure that you are clear about the fact that you’d like it to be a date because some girls may take your offer at hanging out as friendly and not romantic.
Accept if She Says No
If she turns you down despite doing everything right, just accept that she isn’t interested and move on. The funny thing is, sometimes girls will say no only to think more about it and decide they would like to go out with you. But if you’re mean when she turned you down she will never go out with you.
Mistakes are often made when asking a girl out because you just aren’t aware of what you’re doing wrong. Here are the clear guidelines on what you DON’T do when asking a girl out.
If you barely know her and like her, just wait to ask her on a date. You have to let her warm up to you and get to know you deeper before jumping in and asking her own. If you move too quickly, you may scare her away and she won’t want to go out with you at all.
Ask a Random Person
If you don’t know this person at all other than met them and maybe only know their first name, don’t ask her out. This is going to be very weird to them and they’ll be pretty freaked out by it. I suggest only getting to know them better at this point and then deciding if you’d even like to go out with them.
Make it Complicated
Don’t make up some elaborate plan to ask them out. Don’t rent out an entire movie theater or plan an extravagant date and tell them about it. It’ll be too much for her and she’ll get a little uncomfortable. Make the date you want to take her on exciting, but simple.
Set Your Expectations too High
Don’t get your hopes up. This is always something that ends up biting someone in the nuts when they ask a girl out. You have to be realistic in your expectations. Obviously, you want her to say yes, but always be prepared for that no.
Talk About Her Physical Appearance
When you compliment her, don’t talk about how hot or sexy she is. In fact, don’t bring up anything about her physical appearance at all. When a girl is compliments for the way she looks by a guy that’s about to ask her on a date, they immediately think that he wants something sexual. Instead, compliment her interests and hobbies and her intelligence.
Just relax, dude. Being nervous will actually make her nervous. Haven’t you ever seen someone be really nervous to perform on stage or something and then felt nervous yourself? It’s the same thing. Be relaxed and it’ll cause her to feel more comfortable with saying yes.
Invite Her for a House Date
This is just a TERRIBLE idea. When you ask her on a date, you always have to tell her the idea you have planned because if it’s fun, she’ll want to go. However, if you tell her you want to go to her place or your place and make dinner and watch a movie, it basically sounds like you’re after sex and she will say no.
Persist if She Says No
If she says no, then you have to let it go. If you keep asking her and annoying her, she’ll get really mad at it’ll ruin everything for you – especially your friendship if you two are just friends. Accept the no and don’t ask again.
Be Rude if She Says No
NEVER be rude or mean to a girl that turned you down. This is just a horrible idea and makes you look like someone she would never, ever want to go out with. If she decides that she doesn’t want to go on a date with you no matter what you’ve done correctly, it just isn’t meant to be.
Asking out a girl can be a really scary and intimidating thing to do. Luckily, you have this guide to help you get that “yes” and go on a date with a girl you really like.