So you’re ready to take your relationship with her to the next level and finally head down the path towards your first kiss? If she hasn’t made the first move by now you might be trying to figure out a way to do it yourself. Just because you’re ready, doesn’t mean you aren’t feeling totally nervous! That’s okay, there’s really no need to fret over it. Getting a girl to kiss you is not as intimidating as it probably sounds right about now. Truth be told, all you really need is a tiny bit of confidence and some good guidance. Read the following ten steps on how to get a girl to kiss you and you’ll be locking lips in no time:
As we mentioned right away, you are going to need just a little bit of confidence to pull off a first kiss. No first kiss was ever accomplished well when high insecurity was involved. There’s no point in even attempting to kiss her if you’re not ready. If you proceed to go through with it, without a good level of self esteem, you might risk ruining the whole thing entirely. Being nervous will only cause you to throw off the kiss in some way or it could inevitably make her feel awkward. Make sure you’re calm, collected and your ego is just a little bit inflated before you continue.
Before you can kiss those sweet lips that you’ve been thinking about, you have to ensure that everything feels right first. That means making sure the chemistry between the two of you is at it’s absolute best. Sexual chemistry is very important when it comes to kisses, but especially when it comes down to first kisses. Having the right chemistry between both of you will ultimately lead to more passionate kisses, better first impressions and more eagerness coming from her, as well.
Get Your Timing Right
Timing is everything. There’s no point in heading in for a quick snog if she’s seeming to be having a bad day. If she just got demoted or maybe she failed a test, back out until another time. There are various things to take into consideration when picking the right time to kiss the girl you like. Did she just get off work? Is she in a good mood? Has she been showing you affection in the recent hours leading up to when you’re planning to plant one on her? Answer these and then decide if it’s really the right time or not.
Be Mindful Of The Atmosphere
Now that you’ve thought about the right time, it’s time to think about the right place. You’re going to want to instill a romantic feeling in her and you can’t do that just anywhere. You’ll want to wait until you’ve found the right spot to kiss her. A crowded place is not usually ideal for first kisses. That excludes exciting moments like weddings, victories or celebrations. But when you’re just walking through the supermarket it isn’t probably isn’t a great idea. The best places to do it are on dates or after a romantic gesture, but you can do it virtually anytime you guys are alone. Setting up good music, candles and even some nice smelling aromas would only help you, too.
Flirt, Flirt, Flirt!
She’s not going to want to kiss someone who hasn’t shown any intimate interest in her. You want to keep building up her confidence by flattering her at every chance you get. While you don’t want to over-do it, it’s not a bad idea to lay on the flirting fairly thick just before you decide to initiate the kiss. Getting her aroused is extremely vital when you’re trying to be physical with her. Otherwise she might be stiff and reject your kiss. Keeping the flirting going from both sides will help her to let her guard down and be more comfortable when you do finally make physical contact.
Proper Hand Placement
Like we said, showing intimate interest is vital in warming her up to the idea of physical contact. This means being aware of your hands and placing them on her to show your affection. Try to keep subtly touching her elbow, her knee and make good efforts to hold her hand often. That way she won’t be surprised when you start learning towards her.
Be Aware Of Humor
Although humor will definitely attract girls to you most of the time and it is most definitely a great characteristic to possess, you will want to take it easy for now. Especially if you’re going in for that first kiss anytime soon. A little bit of gentle, flirty humor is more than likely okay, depending on the type of girl you are pursuing. But don’t get carried away with the jokes and keep it airy. You could end up creating a more crude atmosphere for her if tell too heavy of jokes and then it could put an end to your efforts very quickly.
Get A Feel Of The Vibe
There’s nothing more important than seeing how she’s acting around you before you take the final steps into kissing her. You will want to get a good sense of what her mood is and how she’s feeling about you lately. It would be embarrassing and hurtful to go in for a kiss on someone who is showing signs of hostility towards you. You would only be setting yourself up for rejection in the end. You might also be potentially risking your entire relationship (or future relationship) by making things awkward.
Put It To The Test
Finally, it’s time to go in for the kiss you’ve been dreaming about for so long. Now that you’ve scoped out every aspect you could, ensured the right timing, atmosphere and everything else is in place, you can safely give her a peck! Or a full on makeout sesh if she’s down for it. That’s really up to you to decide on your own. When you start to lean in, go in slowly. Reach forward about 95% of the way to her lips and let her come in the other 5% to meet yours. If she doesn’t put herself forward that last 5%, it may be a good sign that she’s not ready to take things to the next level.
There is only one thing left to do now that you have kissed her. Keep an eye on her to see how she reacts. Is she pleasantly surprised? Is she smiling? Do you see a blush creeping up on her cheeks? If she does these things, she probably enjoyed the kiss. There’s a safe bet that if she’s grinning from ear to ear, you’re safe to go in for another one sometime soon. If she seems happy, you could even ask her if she liked it. Do you see a frown forming? Did she pull away? Is she suddenly avoiding eye contact with you? These are the things that will reveal if she is currently unhappy about what just happened between the two of you. Now that you’ve surveyed her emotions, you will no whether it’s safe to keep making such intimate contact or not.