Let’s face it, dating just isn’t how it used to be. Not that it is necessarily a bad thing, though! If anything, dating has just gotten to be so much easier, quicker and more convenient for you. It has become more personalized. This means it’s easier for you to find the perfect match by just updating a simple profile. How? Well, that’s where apps such as Tinder come into play. Even though it’s easier to date through these applications and sites that are out there, it’s not exactly a cakewalk. It takes a little patience, a little magic and a bit of extra effort than it would if you just walked into a pub and right up to a girl. But, the pros of online dating definitely seem to outweigh the cons of just trying to meet someone by chance.
So how do you go about online dating? Simple, you follow these very simple tinder tips and you’ll be picking up girls in no time at all.
What is Tinder?
Tinder is one of the highest rated dating apps out there. It has around 6-7 million users every single month. 6-7 million. Talk about having plenty of fish in the sea! What makes Tinder different than any of the other dating apps out there? It had one of the biggest breakthroughs in dating applications because of how simple they made the interface and how fast they made the matching. Tinder doesn’t automatically match you with someone like other dating sites and apps. It lets you pick who you have an interest in… Here’s the kicker: No one’s feelings get hurt, because if you don’t like them you don’t have to swipe right. When you flip through all the possible people there are in your city (or surrounding areas), you have the option to keep swiping left to continue looking. If you feel like you are a match for someone you can swipe right. So flipping easy. All you have to do is create a profile and then voilà! You’re all set to start swiping until your fingers bleed.
Just kidding, your fingers won’t bleed, but they may get a little sore.
How To Create A Perfect Profile
Creating a dating profile takes a little more thinking than a normal profile, such as you would make on Facebook or any other social media platform. It’s a little less tricky than a Linkedin, but you still want to be at the absolute top of your game if you want to start picking up girls like a pro. You’re probably wondering why it takes more effort. Well, no decent girl in her right mind will swipe right for a guy who has a weak profile. That’s just a fact. Just like real life dating, you have to woo her, but you have to woo her with your words and photographs instead.
The first thing you are going to want to set up when you are creating a profile on Tinder is your biography. This is one of the most crucial things when it comes to picking up girl. It’s what will be your first impression on her. So what should you do to make your bio appealing?
First you are going to want to tell her a little something about yourself. Start by introducing yourself with your name or preferred nickname. The minimum you should write for your Tinder bio is three full sentences. The maximum is one paragraph. You don’t want to leave to much to wonder, because then she will not be intrigued by you. However, if you write too much, she may get bored and lose interest. Keep it short, but also charming. After your introduction continue on to describe some of the things you like to do with your free time, what your passions are and what you do for a living. You will also want to honest about where you are from when filling out your details, or you may get matched with some way too far away to meet up with. If you are only passing through town be honest about it. Be truthful about the length of your stay, too. Feel free to talk yourself up a little bit in your description, but whatever you do, don’t be arrogant.
The ideal bio would go something like this:
“John Doe, 24. I’m working on my masters in psychology, but in my free time I love to travel to different places across the world. I’m an animal lover, believe in love at first sight and I know how to live a little.”
More examples Of A Great Biography:
Now that you know what makes a bio a good and attractive bio, let’s talk about what makes it an unappealing and bad one. A bad description will have a girl swiping left faster than you can literally say, “Swiping left.” So you want to think carefully before you write anything you might regret.
We’ve already mentioned the obvious fact that you should leave your pride and arrogance at the door. Also remember that you don’t want to over exaggerate things about yourself. This will only make conversation with women more difficult and inevitably the lies you tell will bite you right in the bum. The best bios are ones that are kept clean of corny cliches and silly pickup lines. They don’t work in real life and they won’t work on Tinder. The only time humor is acceptable is if you are, quite literally, a comedian. However, there are a few pickup lines that are acceptable to use. It really all depends on how classy they are. No one wants to swipe right on someone who says something like, “What’s your favorite silverware? Because I like to spoon!”
Or, “I may not be Fred Flinstone, but I can sure make your Bed Rock!”
C’mon, there’s nothing worse than a pickup line that makes you want to scratch your eyes out and never see again.
The very opposite of an ideal biography would go a little something like this:
“John Doe. 24. I’m really good at everything I do, especially getting girls. As long as my face is around, you’ll always have a place to sit.”
More Examples Of A Bad Biography:
After you have set up what you consider a perfect bio, it’s time to move on to something that’s almost, if not more, important than the way you describe yourself: Your pictures.
Pictures also play a major role in your admirers first impression of you. It’s not as easy as just slapping your latest Facebook pictures on there, you want to take a little more time to pick out the proper photos when it comes to identifying yourself on a dating app. Tinder allows you a few slots for some pictures. These are your chance to say, “Hey! Look at me! I’m interesting!” And grab her attention before she swipes you away.
The first picture you place up should be a clear shot of your face. Because Tinder is so fast paced, a lot of people don’t make it to the second picture and make their decision whether they are interested in you or not based on your first picture. A selfie is definitely acceptable, but a simple portrait is much more ideal. Try to pick a picture where you are smiling or, at the very least, not frowning. Grumpy doesn’t look good on anybody, does it? Keep yourself clean of accessories such as hats, sunglasses or bandannas. Just keep it simple. Just make it all about your features and the energy you want to display.
The second picture slot is typically the perfect place to put a picture of you and your full body. That way, if she makes it past your first picture, she can continue to see if there is something else she likes about you by taking a peek at the second picture. She won’t be able to get a better idea of what you look like if you post several of the same face focused pictures and she might move on quickly. The second picture should be a picture that displays your posture and the type of build you have. This way she can decide if you are her “ type” or not.
Lastly, comes the third picture. The third picture should be one that shows you actively doing something. You can choose one where you are partaking in your favorite hobby or a passion you have. So if you are huge into water-sports, go ahead and put one of those cool pictures you have tucked away of you water-skiing at your hometown water Olympics last summer. If you don’t have any great hobbies or you have no hobbies that you want to put on display just yet, you can also use the third picture slot to put up a picture of you traveling or visiting somewhere exciting. A picture with a great landscape is never a bad idea. The third picture gives a woman some insight about what type of person you are and lets her know if the two of you have something in common or not.
Whatever you do, do not post pictures with you and another girl. Not only will you look like like you ‘get around’, you might appear to look like someone who is cheating on his girlfriend.
Most girls aren’t into that kind of thing.
So just don’t post those pictures. Okay?
After that, you wait.
Once your profile is all done and set up for the Tinder world to see, it’s all about having that patience we mentioned in the very beginning. Now you wait for a match.
You can ruffle through the women on Tinder while you wait and if you see someone you are interested in you can swipe right. This way you can match yourself with a girl and all you have to do is see if she accepts. However, if that doesn’t happen and she doesn’t accept, you are going to have to patiently wait until some other beauty decides to match herself with you. The good news is that there are so many people on Tinder, you shouldn’t have to wait long. Especially if you followed the steps that we listed to set up a great profile.
Getting A Match
Once you’ve finally gotten that match you’ve been waiting for, the real work begins. The easy part is setting up a profile and waiting, the hard part is actually getting a date with someone that you have matched with. It’s not as simple as, “Hey, I like you, let’s meet up.”
Coming on too strong is definitely a thing and you want to avoid that at all costs. Yes, it’s okay to be excited that someone is finally popping up in your direct messages, but hold your horses there, buddy. The work has only just begun. Now it’s your time to show your true charm. Even if you don’t feel like you have any. You want to project confidence and elegance. There’s nothing worse than getting a creepy, thirsty guy hitting you up. Don’t scare her away. Starting a conversation doesn’t have to be overwhelming for either of you.
So what should you say when you finally get a chance to write back?
First rule of a proper Tinder intro is: Always use her name.
Make her feel like an individual, instead of just another girl you’re trying to hook up with. Using her name will grab her attention for more than a few seconds and bring her to listen to what you have to say.
Now that she’s listening…
Here’s the second rule of a proper Tinder intro:
Refrain from keeping your messages too vague.
Avoid saying things like:
“What’s up lil’ mama.”
Cue the family feud style buzzer.
They’re just not going to cut it… Unless you’re the most attractively stunning guy that ever roamed Tinder.
Those types of introductions are so lame that she’s going to roll her eyes and then she’ll proceed to sweep you under the rug in heartbeat like you never even existed.
You are going to want to come up with something unique. This means trying to outdo all the dumb, plain messages that she’s received from other guys before you came along.
Instead of just jumping right in, take a quick peek at her Tinder profile.
Once you are there and searching, try to find something you can use to bring up in conversation.
This is going to peak her interest and get her responding to you.
If you noticed she listed art (or whatever it may be that you find) as her hobby and you happen to also like art- Use it!
“Hey, I see you study art. My favorite place to go and think is the local art museum. Have you ever been there?”
If you find her profile to be free of hobbies and interests, it’s time to try the next best thing.
Don’t just give any compliment. Depending on who she is, she’s probably had more than a few guys come around and say, “Your eyes are so pretty!”
Tell her something she, most likely, hasn’t heard before. To do this you must find something unique about her that takes a little looking for to find.
Something along the lines of, “Wow, I can’t believe how adorable those freckles on the bridge of your nose are. They’re really special, have you always had them?”
There’s also a third rule of a proper Tinder intro and it’s so very important:
If you’re going to use humor, be wise about doing so.
This means, once again, stay away from cheesy pickup lines or terrible jokes. Don’t overtly sexualize her. Unless she has no standards, she’ll probably delete you.
Act like you passed the 5th grade and be aware of your grammar, spelling and punctuation. Studies have shown that girls on Tinder are not likely to continue a conversation with a guy who speaks like this, “hay wat up shawty, how r u 2day?”
She’s looking for someone to date, not someone to babysit.
After the initial intro is over you can decide how you want to further the conversation. You can continue basing it off of the intro, compliment or inquiry you made about her. You can also choose to play a simple game of ‘20 questions’ to keep her intrigued and responsive.
Girls like to have conversation, that’s their thing, right? So humor her and try to give her a good discussion before you ask her to meet you.
Get to know her a little bit and let her know you are interested in her and not just her pictures.
How do you do this?
Ask her questions like:
“Where are you originally from?”
“If someone wrote a book about you, what do you think the title would be?”
“Where is somewhere you’ve always wanted to travel?”
“What do you do for a job? Do you like it?”
Hopefully this leads her to also ask questions about you and gets you the two of you bonding.
Asking Her On A Date
Now that you’ve been talking with a girl, it’s time to discuss how to get things off of Tinder and out into the real world.
This is the final step in picking up a girl on Tinder and, quite honestly, the easiest one.
First you need to make sure that you’ve been talking to her for a substantial amount of time. This means waiting at least twenty four hours before you ask her to meet up with you.
This keeps you from seeming too desperate.
Waiting more than twenty four hours also gives you time to get to know her a little more and ultimately decide if you want to go through with meeting up with her.
Jumping the gun could lead you to a very, very awkward date in real life.
24 hours is the minimum for any girl, but if she seems like a more held back person then you might even want to wait a few days. This will guarantee you a definite yes when you ask her on a date. If she hasn’t stopped talking to you after a few days or even a week then there is no way she isn’t interested in meeting you and she will be happy to oblige your offer.
Now you have all the tools, tips and examples you need to get on Tinder and find your perfect match! If online dating seemed difficult before, now you know there’s really nothing to it. As long as you follow all of the above tinder dating tips, you’re golden!