How to tell if a guy likes you


Men generally have the ability to flirt naturally, but not in a bad way. Sometimes they possess charming, innocent, friendly action that leads you to believe that they are a kind of indirect message to express their interest in you. “Does he really like me?” is a quite common question we hear every day, but not an easy question to answer. Well, love can be obvious, sometimes but not always. Guys usually don’t wear emotions on their sleeves, and it becomes difficult to get a conclusion if that is the case.

Although it can be a little tricky to decode his actions, by learning about some of the basic signs, you definitely can recognize whether he is just friendly or he may really like you.

So here are 30 signs that are considered as a strong evidence to assume if the guy really likes you. Read on:

  • You occupy his priority list.priority

When you become the most important person in his life, it is a good sign to assume that he really likes you. He will let you know all the stuff that has happened in his day. If he treats you different than he treats others, it means that you are a priority for him.

  • He goes out of his way for you.How to tell if a guy likes you 2

If you are more than a friend to him, he would just go out of the way to do any favors for you. His actions will not be limited to just favors; he would cancel his hangout with his friends to be with you.  In doing so, he wants to make sure that you will be happy with his actions, and he want to convey you that he will go to any extent to make you happy. This is a great sign that he is in love with you.

  • He hates your guy friends.How to tell if a guy likes you 1

If a guy likes you only as his friend, he would never get upset when you are around with your other guy friends. He won’t really care much because that is not his business. When a guy likes you more, he starts getting concerned when you are with other boys. Usually, guys justify this behavior by saying that they are just protective, but that is not the case always. If he behaves more than being protective, then count it as a sign that he likes you, and he has a crush on you.

  • He teases you.How to tell if a guy likes you 3

Again teasing is not for everyone, but the guy will definitely possess a playful teasing, especially if he is a fun loving person. Teasing doesn’t mean a mean full teasing where you hurt another person’s feelings. It’s just that fun teasing like he teases you on areas where you are strong enough. He may make fun of you at the way you walk or giggle, and this means that he pays close attention to all your gestures, and he is in love with it. He might even tease you in front of your common friends just to make fun out of it. Remember not to take these things to heart as he is not mean to you. Just enjoy what he does and view it as a sign of his love towards you.

  • He throws sweeping looks on you.How to tell if a guy likes you

He glances at you bashfully and glances away and looks back at you again, and this is a pretty obvious sign of love. You can recognize this when you are talking, and he is facing a hard time looking at your eyes. When a guy finds a girl attractive, he will utilize each and every chance he gets to stare at her without her noticing it. The fact is that he can’t stop looking at you, and he starts showing uncomfortable body stance and barely talks at this time. So when he is silent while you are talking and looks away when you look at him, count it as a sign of love.

  • He is always the conversation starter.How to tell if a guy likes you 8

Love makes you a little weird, yeah, that’s true. When he really likes you, he always finds some excuse to start a conversation with you. You can measure how much he likes you by analyzing how stupid the conversation is. This is because, his ultimate aim is to interact with you somehow and it doesn’t matter how he gets there.  If the guy is trying to reach out to you in some other way, there is something that he wants to tell you!

  • He forgets about time.How to tell if a guy likes you 5

When you are hanging out together, and if you could see that he was never in a hurry it is a clear indication of his interest in you. If he never says he wants to go as he is enjoying the time being spent with you and doesn’t want to let you go is also a kind of indirect expression of his interest in you. This kind of indirect act of expression is another way to tell if he likes you for real. He might be spending his valuable time with you by avoiding some other important things. If he checks his phone at times and checks the time, it shows that you are not a priority for him, and he is not that interested in you.

  • There occurs some creepiness!creepiness

Have you ever wondered “why does this guy like all my pictures and post in Facebook as soon as I upload them”? Or “why I’m seeing him in all the places where ever I go?” And you know that these situations don’t happen accidentally that too for many times. Yes, they are not, they are just accidental creepy behaviors from him! It just means that he is really helpless of behaving weird to you as he really likes you.

  • You become part of his group.How to tell if a guy likes you 6

He might invite you to group parties or hangouts and if you say yes, he would happily plan everything. Inviting you to a group, but not personally doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to be with you alone. It is simply because inviting you in person would turn to a date and if you refuse to join, definitely he would not feel good. So group hangouts are an easy way to ask for a date and if it doesn’t sound like a date and even if you don’t go, his pride stays intact!

  • They don’t refer you as a friend to others.

Many times the way a person feels about someone can easily be understood through the way they talk about them to others. If a guy, who you are friends with, doesn’t refer to you as a friend while talking to others, it simply means that you are way more than a friend to him. You have a higher position in his mind that is more than a friend. He might introduce or refer to you as “My close friend” or just by your name. It is often easy to recognize these signs that clearly tell you that he likes you way more than you think.

  • He always compliments you.How to tell if a guy likes you 4

Your friend won’t regularly tell you that you look beautiful and stunning, but a guy how really likes you will. If he compliments your looks, dressing or personality, then it means he likes you because guys don’t simply compliment all the women. Sometimes he compliments you directly or indirectly, but that doesn’t really matter. Be it a subtle and not so obvious compliment, a compliment always feels nice and the guy really mean it. So look out for backhanded compliments because it really indicates something.

  • He is always groomed than usual.How to tell if a guy likes you 9

Usually, men don’t groom much, and they are lazy unless their work requires to do it. There are guys who iron their clothes and groom every time they step out, but not many are like that. But, when in love with a girl, they will try to look presentable always. So next time when you meet, look for signs that show he has spent a little time to groom himself to look good. If he doesn’t like you much, he would not care about your opinion about him.  When you notice that he is trying to look better when you are near him, that’s a wonderful sign that he is into you.

  • He likes to sit closer to you.How to tell if a guy likes you 2

No matter how far you sit at the start of the conversation, he will come closer to you and his body would be facing towards you if he likes you. He might come pretty close to you or lean in, and it means something is going on there. It also depends on the environment also, for example, if you are in a place where some loud talk is going on, and then he will have to come closer to listen to you. But I’m not talking ab  out such peculiar situations, but about a situation where he accidentally does that when it is not really necessary. This is a sign of interest!

  • He finds you on social media.How to tell if a guy likes you 10

Now this is pretty an obvious sign of real interest. He will search for you on Facebook or other popular social media sites and leaves you a message. This is to be taken seriously if he starts initiating conversation on Facebook always especially when his social media history doesn’t portray him as an active person. If he doesn’t like to end the conversation and if you have to end it forcefully, it is a perfect sign. When a guy likes a girl, he would go out of his way and do the things he is not used to.

  • He is there to help you out.How to tell if a guy likes you 11

If this a guy you study with or work with, observe how he treats other colleagues compare to you, and you will know whether he likes you or not. If he is there to help you in every needy situation, but he is not like that of others, and then you know what it is. Maybe he is not in real love with you, but this is a sign that he is interested in you. You can know this easily by testing him. You could ask him for help for a big task and just watch the risk he is ready to take for you.

  • He shows an improved memory power.

Guys generally don’t really remember the finer details of a meeting, such as the color of the girl’s dress, something that they discussed and other random stuff. They don’t store these items in their memory as they consider these as girly things. But if he remembers these little things, then you will have to figure out what’s behind that. It’s real, and guys have a selective memory and if your smallest details are a part of his memory, he definitely likes you. He only pays attention to these little things if he has gone deep into it and it happens only when he is really interested. If he is not really into a girl, he filters their conversation and tends to forget things often.

  • He never talks about another woman.

This is another evident sign to tell if a guy likes you. When you are around him, he never talks about other women. Even if he has a girlfriend or wife, he will never mention it because he doesn’t want to become unavailable in case you like him. You need to find out whether he is involved in any other relationship to find out whether he is serious about you or if he is just playing around.

  • Finding reasons to touch you.How to tell if a guy likes you 14

There is an invisible barrier between a boy and girl when it comes to touch. No boy usually touches a girl without any reason. If he breaks the barrier often, it is a sure sign that he likes and that is why he is getting close to you in touching distance. He might brush up his hand against you accidentally, or lingers his hand near you, but often. Brush your hair away from your face or any such actions, whether it is knowingly or unknowingly is a sign that he is totally into you.

  • He calls you by a nickname.

This is not always a good sign, but it can be also taken as a sign that he likes you, but when considered by other signs. If he gives you some nickname like “baby” or “cute”, they are obvious signs. Or if he calls you by any other name, he might be trying to tease you playfully. That is also counted as a sign.

  • He asks you out.How to tell if a guy likes you 16

Maybe, he won’t say,” let’s have a date”, but he invites you to lunch or coffee or just ask you to join with mutual friends. This is another obvious signal to confirm that he likes you. When a guy shows interest in spending time with you, he is definitely interested. Or if he doesn’t initiate a conversation you can do that to know his response. If you study or work together, you can change the venue and go for a coffee together. This way it doesn’t get tagged with a date as it is not an official meeting that you have planned exclusively. It is just considered as an extension of what you have been doing.

  • The way in which he behaves to other women when you are not together.

Just see how he behaves to other women, does he flirts with them also or just to you? If you can derive a “yes” to that question, then he really likes you. If he is same with all the women, then it means he is naturally flirty to all, and you are not special for him. You don’t have to spy on him to find this out, a quite observation will do, and you can find out it yourself.

  • He is jealous of the other guys who are your friends.How to tell if a guy likes you 7

It’s not that he would be angry whenever he sees you with another guy, but if he really likes you and if things are not defined between you two, and then he will feel a bit jealous. This is because he is not sure about the position he has in your life. His insecurity feeling of losing you or you get attracted to another guy is what that jealousy really means. If you have the same feelings towards him, and you understand his situation, then it is better to ease his mind by letting him know that you like him.

  • He always occupies the seat next to you.How to tell if a guy likes you 17

If you are colleagues or visit a common place regularly, he often finds reasons to sit next to you always, and this could be a reason to consider a sign of real love. He somehow finds a way to make sure that you are near to him and not far away from his sight. That’s an obvious sign to girls, so keep this in mind next time when he sets up a plot to sit near you.

  • He asks about your previous relationships.How to tell if a guy likes you 18

This simply means that he wants to know everything about you and that’s why he takes a dip into your past. This is a subtle effort from his side to see whether you are still in a relationship or interested in anybody else. There is a chance that he might also ask for some dating tips from you or asks about your dream guy. This is just to know what is in your mind or to know about your preferences and choices. But if he makes sincere and constant efforts to connect you with another guy, it means that you are just his friend.

  • He is stalking you.How to tell if a guy likes you 19

He will not stalk you like a psycho type, but still he tries to find out all information about you. He might check your Facebook page or Instagram account to know what are your activities. Or he would ask your common friends to know more about you. In short, one way or the other he tracks everything about you just because he really likes you. And this can be considered as a great sign of love.

  • He disconnects the electronic gadgets when you are together.

This is yet another positive sign that he likes you. It can be actually in two ways, i.e., if he is interested in you and is shy when you are near, he might use the phone to adjust himself to the situation. Or else he will disconnect the phone and the internet when he is near you so that he can spend his quality time with you alone. He will never waste an opportunity to talk with you or be with you. He doesn’t even allow his phone or technology to be a barrier between you two. This indicates that he respect you and value the time spent with you. Sometimes he many not pick up calls from his office when you are together. Though this is a small sign, it is to be considered that he is very much serious about the relationship.

  • He tries to impress you always.How to tell if a guy likes you 21

Usually, cool guys don’t broadcast good things about them or boast in certain things. But it doesn’t always mean that he is uncool, it just means that he wants to impress you somehow. Be it a subtle one or an obvious one, he always tries to convey to you that he is the best. He tries to showcase his all good abilities and qualities before you. For example, if you are into charity, he might join you in such kinds of activity and tries to show you that he is of your type. Even if he is not a perfectionist in many areas, he tries to become one. He improves his looks, his personality, and the way he behaves and changes or improves everything about him so that you might get interested in him.

  • He remembers your important days.How to tell if a guy likes you 22

Guys usually are not so good at remembering dates, but if a guy is interested in you, he will remember all the dates involved with you. Be it your birthday or the day he first met you, he will remember it with all those small details in his memory. Also, if he has only met you once and when he sees you the next time he will remember your name correctly. Guys usually will remember the name of the girl only if they are interested in her.

  • He is protective.

If you are part of a common friend circle and have only met him once and talked a little and now you are in a crowded event and if he positions himself in a way that he wants to protect you, that is a pretty good sign of interest. He keeps you away from all problematic guys and make sure that you are around a comfortable circle. Also, he would get angry if any guy stalks you or disturb you and makes you uncomfortable. He would do everything to keep you safe.

  • He agrees to everything.How to tell if a guy likes you 24

If a guy agrees with you on everything, it doesn’t rate him as stupid; instead it must be indicating that he likes you more. This might be to make you feel good and best. If you are having an argument about something and he gives up immediately so that you don’t get offended much, count it as a signal. He instantly agrees on all the arguments so that you remain happy.

General attitude and symptoms of love:

The easiest way to tell whether a guy likes you is to check his body language and his behavior when you are together. Follow his eyes to know the truth, eye speaks better than words. Not only he treats you differently, but he also behaves differently with you. Common signs of interest are shyness, nervousness, mirroring or blushing a bit when talking with you. Blushing and shyness are natural body languages that a person cannot control, even if he tries hard.

Remember, we all blush when we think about our first crush. His body language and gestures are something that he cannot control and hence they are some of the obvious signs that you can rely upon to understand what is happening in the relationship. That emotion on his face, shining in his eyes, those lovely smiles are trying to convey something to you. They are signs that should be taken note of and not to be discarded instead. If he looks at your eyes longer than a normal friend, he is way more interested in you. When a guy is a shy person, he cannot hold eye contact for longer. Not all the signs will be common for many; it will differ with the personality and attitude of your guy.

How to tell if a guy likes you 15Conclusion:

The above-discussed signs can help you to determine whether a guy likes you or he is just a friend of you. But the real question is what you will do about it? As I told earlier, love is obvious most of the times, and it is easy for a girl to determine it correctly. But in spite of all these signs, you are unable to conclude that he likes you, maybe the fact is he is not really into you.

Let me tell you one thing, getting a guy to love you is easy, but keeping him is the hardest thing ever.  A good relationship will be hard to break, and it will be a lifelong relationship and couples find a good mechanism to maintain the relationship if they feel the relationship is very important to them.


  1. So this guy and I have been best friends for a little over a year now, And all of my friends basically are like, “why have you guys not started dating yet?” And for so long, I was denying that I liked him, but he is my best friend, and if that were to happen, and it didn’t work, I would be so sad. Because he IS my best friend in the world, and I don’t know what I would do if I were to lose him. But I have started kind of picking some stuff up, from what he has been doing, and saying, that makes me wonder if he is trying to tell me that he likes me, but he has a girlfriend, and I don’t know what is happening. Because he has been trying to break up with his girlfriend, but I don’t know what to do.

    • If he currently has a girlfriend, then do not attempt to develop a relationship with him at this time. Remain friends with him, as there is nothing wrong with doing so. By attempting to damage their relationship, you will only cause negative feelings and events for his girlfriend, him, and for yourself. If he has not broken up with her, then he still wants to be in a relationship with her. All of that said, there is no reason for you to ignore him. Be good to him and perhaps the two of you will develop a relationship in the future. Have a great day, Hannah!

      • I am kinda in the same situation, the difference the guys has no girlfriend. This guy and I have been close friends for two years. We basically started as family friends, but we weren’t close like we are now. At that time, we were kinda restricted on hi and bye kinda thing. But as our family friendship got closer, so di we. This guy calls every night, sometimes he checks on me, or he wants advice. Al in all, we connect on a deep notion, we have conversation serious conversations about life, whether it be on political, family, school, intellectual etc…. Most of his friends and/or are common friends, tell me he likes me. Most of the times, I,ll catch him really staring at me, striking random conversations. What most people say, is the way he looks reveals the true nature of his; he looks at me differently compared to other girls.

        What should have a been a day call turned out to be a daily/monthly thing. I am not sure he stands, he is very confusing. Our friendships is something he stresses a lot in our conversations. I cannot we can both call each other best friends, but close friends suits best. How do you get unconfused? How can you really tell?

        • If you are confused and uncertain about his feelings for you, then you have one option that will always help you determine your situation. Speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. Ask him how he feels. Honesty is always the best policy. By doing this, you can determine the true nature of where your relationship stands. If the two of you determine that you want to remain close friends, then at least you know. If you two decide that you want to begin a closer relationship, then do so. Best of luck, Luna!

  2. I like this one guy that I met like 3 months ago and I’m almost positive he likes me, I just don’t know how to ask him out. He’s not shy, but he’s super insecure. I try to give him complements and stuff so that he knows I like him, but he always just kind of shrugs them off like I do t mean them. How do I tell him I like him?

    • If he is insecure, then your best option is to be clear and direct with him. Try to spend additional time with him. Perhaps bring him on a nature walk and get to know him better If you feel comfortable with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. If you speak from the heart and with true words, then he most certainly will perk up and feel more confident. Best of luck, Jade!

  3. How about long distance relationship? Any signs to know he seriously likes me? We are connected to FB now, he were asking it. Just the conversations usually started by him. I didn’t realize that i really like him now. This must be hard for me.

    • If the two of you have frequent or deep conversations, then it is likely that the two of you have feelings for each other. If you want to become closer with him, then continue to have conversations where the two of you share your feelings and interests. In time, the two of you may want to attempt to meet up and see each other. Remain positive as you move forward. Best of luck, Emelda!

  4. Hi,

    Since a year a noticed a guy staring at me… the have he looks at me is totally different like his eyes twinkles or i would say shines like a star. Whenever i had caught him staring at me on a particular situation next time he wouldn’t be there on that situation… and whether i talk or not he will always talk to me sometimes i gets puzzled what to reply then to he will talk to me… and if i happen to iniate a conversation like a birthday wish.. he will be very shy to reply back ..if i will standing facing him his body posture would be like shrinking kind… if am smiling and laughing out loud with others that’s automatically makes him happy.. but he very famous in girl like lots of girls are having crush on him and he will be treating them nicely and will talk to them alot … many girls will be pampering him around..his personality seems like kiddo and is fun loving… sometimes there isn’t a single conversation between me and him like totally disconnected not even a HEllo but when a conversation happens that makes him happy..
    So it’s hard for me to decide that whether he is really serious about me or just some flirty guy

    • He may be a flirt person or he may have an interest in you. If you want to get to know his true feelings, then it would be wise of you to speak with him directly and honestly. There is no reason for you to not speak with him because he talks to many people. It is up to you to decide what course of action that you want to take. Take this time to look inward and determine that course. Remain positive and best of luck with your decision, Miko!

  5. I met a guy 3 years ago and we became friends through our mutual friends. He always asked about my personal (if I am seeing anyone, if I plan to get married and other questions that can be related to his personal interest) privately to our mutual friend. However, when we hang out in a group – yes he focused on me but he never make any attempt to chat me up privately. He made effort to visit me and introduced me to his kids. But once we are apart – we stay quiet. It is like we both are waiting for each other to initiate. He noticed my silence but instead of taking action by initiating conversation with me via whats app or call – he asked our mutual friend. If he is interested, just ask me. I do not wish to wonder IF HE IS or IF HE IS NOT. Hence, I choose to lay low and ignore it. I know he said to our mutual friend that he wants to take it slow but it has been 3 years and nothing happen. In fact we grew apart because I gave up on him.

    • If he continues to ask about you, then you should be aware that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that the two of you are shy or not interested in making the first move. If you to want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. If you do not want to make the first move, then attempt to catch his eye or mind so that he comes to you first. If you make no move, then there is a chance that you will lose this opportunity. Determine what you want to do in the future. Thank you, Nols!

  6. So, there’s this guy I like, he’s the principals son and he is dating someone else, but he said there’s a chance that me and him could date. My brother is his friend and he is always telling me that my crush doesn’t like me and is blocking me from texting him. What should I do? Also, if I sometimes see him staring at me in band, does this mean he likes me? Not often, but sometimes in band I catch him looking at me, and sometimes he doesn’t look away but I do, and other times he does look away when I see him. Also, if I tell him I like him, will this help our relationship?
    Also, there’s this boy in my theater class, and we have squads that we have to sit in, and he’s in mine, but when I sit at the far end of my squad, he always sits as close as possible to me, does this mean he likes me?

    • The person who your brother has said for you to no longer text is not able to have a relationship at this time. As he is in a relationship, you should not attempt to damage his relationship. This other person who is in your theater class, however, seems as though he is interested in you. Continue to develop your relationship with this person and see where it goes. It is best to develop relationships with people who are interested in you. Enjoy life and remain positive, Abbie!

  7. Hi,
    I have a crush on my doctor. He’s hss to look at my body. Hes seen all of me due to I’m in his care.
    I’m not sure if he likes me or just being a great plastic surgeon.
    When we are together the nurses seem like they dont want to leave us. I know it’s there job but he finds ways for us to entact solo. Hes always professional friendly. We have alot of eye contact and I shy away. Or I will look at him and he willnt gove me eye contact.
    Last visit he gave me so many compliments on my body but he could of just been admiring his work .How would I know?

    • I am not sure that you would be able to know if he is flirting with you as a way to boost his practice or genuinely likes you. You may be picking up on his interest, or he may just be that way with every patient. Many doctors do not like to date their patients because they believe it is unethical, so you may never know for sure how he feels. Perhaps you could ask him out at your last visit–that way, you won’t have to see him again if he turns you down. Good luck, Tiffany!

  8. Hi there is this guy who is always playing with girls but he protects me and likes to scare me I would like to add that I’m really quiet and he has a girlfriend

    Than there is this other guy who also scares me and tries to sit near me in the classes that we are together

    Than there is other guy who tells me he loves me but I’m not sure he is always flirting

    Then there’s other guy who likes to scare me
    I’m really confused I have never had a boyfriend.

    • Who do you like? Answer this question, and you will have a better idea about what to do. It sounds like all four guys could be interested, but what you do depends on who you like and want to be with. Decide what you want, and then worry about which guy likes you back. Good luck, Dulce!

      • I don’t know I just don’t feel ready to have anyone and they are all very good friends of mine and I don’t want to ruin our relationship. I don’t know and I don’t even know what’s going on.
        I can’t choose one.
        Please help me and I’m also really shy and I think i’m they ugliest girl in class so I don’t really know

        • If you are uncertain about the feelings of your friends, then it would be most wise to speak with them directly and honestly about your feelings. Explain that you are concerned about having any negative responses. If they care about you, then they will be respectful and clear about their feelings as well. Remain positive and take this time to look inward to determine your true feelings. Remain mindful as you move forward, Dulce!

    • I know in the core of my being that I belong to a certain girl
      I don’t need to question.i don’t need to be told to be respectful and faithful.i already know.i believe every guy is aware deep inside which girl he belongs to.there is no excuse for cheating..being faithful is easy if the love is real and true.

      • You have made an excellent point. Being faithful is easy as long as you are committed to the person and respect them. Thanks for commenting, Jamesgarrity!

  9. Hi, I’m in doubt. So there’s this guy whom I had just met not too long ago, due to some school trip. He had also said that he was gay. When I first met him, I caught him staring at me. There were also times when I caught him staring at me from the corner of my eye, for quite awhile. It was as if he was anticipating something from me. He also kept standing beside me if he had the chance to, and so I would talk to him since he was the nearest. After the trip, he would send me some text messages just to catch up about what I’m doing currently.

    • Maybe he just thinks that you would be a good friend, or he thinks that you are especially attractive. Even if he is not attracted to girls, nothing would stop him from noticing that you are pretty. Or, he just thought you looked like a friendly face and someone he would like to be around. Overall, I would probably not read too much into it.

  10. I’m a guy. I am in my 30s, transitioning to a new career. I am friends with a guy, yeah a guy, lol. who had some interest in other guys, but not really pursued anything. I befriended a guy I knew through a friend when I was ten. Turns out we have a lot in common. We have gone on vacations, and we hang out a lot. It feels like a close bromance, He shows no interest in girls, and the ones who are interested in him, he rejects. He claims to be straight, However, I got two texts in the past month. One I thanked him for helping me switch careers with confidence, and I get I reply back, ” I think we make each other better people”. The second one I told him if you ever need anything, im always around , (in lieu of his best friends birthday was that day, and he died 5 years ago unexpected) … ” I think we help each other more than we know” . I never told him my interest in guys, but trying to figure him out.

    • It sounds like he could like you back. Both of those texts seem too personal and deep to be just from a friend. Now, the question is if you like him back and if you are ready to take the risk of letting him know how you feel. What do you want to do, Joey?

  11. Hi! There is this girl in my class who Im very friendly with. We text all night sometimes and sometimes in a flirty way. But in person, when with friends she is really mean to me. What does this mean? Hoping for an answer. Thank you.

    • That is a bit weird. Maybe she just does not know how to act around you and acts standoffish. Or, she may just like the ego boost she gets from you, but does not care about you as much in person. Since she seems more open during her texts, ask her why she is so mean or cold via a text. Hopefully, she will be honest with you and tell you what is going on in her mind right now. Good luck, YoDragon!

  12. Comment: Hi, I’ve always wondered why this guy acts foolish when am around. He feels shy and says nothing when he’s just with me but talks a lot while with friends (mine or his). When I talk he keeps looking at and when I ask him why he stares at me, he says I don’t know what to say. Sometimes he calls me more than three times within an hour and tells me every single thing he’s doing at that moment without me asking.

    Sometimes I get pissed up, I shun him and yell at him but he keeps doing the same and apologizes.
    The issue is , I have a relationship and he does what my man doesn’t do for me. He sacrifices but my boyfriend always have excuses to give like ” Am sorry, am hanging out with some friends”, I have an important thing doing right now, I can’t leave it”. Please, what do I do?

    • It sounds like the other guy likes you, but is not going to make a move until you are single. As for your boyfriend, it is up to you what you want to do. He may just be busy and with friends like he says, so it wouldn’t be a bad idea to just be patient. If you do want someone who is there for you more, then you may want to end things with your boyfriend. Your next step is entirely up to you and what you want out of your relationship. Think it through carefully, because you may not be able to undo a break up later on.

  13. Hello I’m Nickki and I came here to know if that guy really interested in me or just mind-playing…
    So I met this guy in my class, we are in our 20s. He is a very quiet one, and he doesn’t speak much to other girls (I never saw he’s talking to a girl). He is someone physically attractive. I’m a little chubby. He called me cute, and says he’s happy when he got my texts. Actually his texts are flirty sometimes, but he won’t talk much as in texts when we met in person. He’s done several things that made me think he’s really into me. Once he talked about future like jobs and plans, and he said he would support me in a really serious way which I denied as I’m not serious like him.
    Everything seems so fine. but then he stops sitting beside me (he used to sit beside me in class). Then we rarely met in school, and we suddenly became like strangers. I was like okay, it’s all done, I’m finished with it, not interested anymore.
    Yesterday, when we met, he starts the conversation, talking like how you’ve been doing … blah blah, I just thought, well, he’s being friendly again. Then all of a sudden, he compliments my looks. U know, he is smiling alot, lean into me when he talk to me.
    I feel like he’s a shy guy, but is he doing with it? Now we’re like not friends, nor in relationship. I hate this situation.

    • This sounds fairly confusing. Maybe he stopped showing his interest in you because he was afraid that you were not interested in him in return. Or, he may have just been busy or needed to talk to someone else, so he sat somewhere else in class. Whatever the case, it does sound like he likes you. Maybe he just needs more encouragement to make the next move–he is quiet after all. Could you try flirting with him or talking to him more?

  14. I need an advice.there’s a boy who makes me feel headache.He sometimes stares at me and when i look back , he looks away.When i talked with his friend , his friend told me about him without me asking.When i sit in cafetaria or stay in downstairs , his friends are always looking at me except him.He randomly asks me about the lessons.He usually wears the clothes that are the same colours with me.But he avoids talking with me face to face.Also , after his presentation , he always asks questions only to me.I know he lives with his single mother and he’s the only son.And he has some difficulties in communitcating with people.I tries to read his face but he’s always calm.But when i talk with some seniors or smile to them , he looks like he is mad.I don’t know anymore

    • It seems like you commented twice on this one. I answer and approve every comment individually, so it sometimes takes me a little while to get around to them all. If you do not see your comment right away, you will. Read through my initial response and let me know if you need any more help.

  15. I need an advice.there’s a boy who makes me feel headache.He sometimes stares at me and when i look back , he looks away.When i talked with his friend , his friend told me about him without me asking.When i sit in cafetaria or stay in downstairs , his friends are always looking at me except him.He randomly asks me about the lessons.He usually wears the clothes that are the same colours with me.But he avoids talking with me face to face.Also , after his presentation , he always asks questions only to me.I know he lives with his single mother and he’s the only son.And he has some difficulties in communitcating with people.I tries to read his face but he’s always calm.But when i talk with some seniors or smile to them , he looks like he is mad.I don’t know anymore.

    • It sounds like he could like you, but he is just afraid to make a move. He does not seem like someone who is overly flirty or confident with girls, so it could take him time until he gets comfortable enough to try flirting with you. Continue trying to talk to him and get to know him better. Hopefully, this will help him to come out of his shell. Good luck, SanSanW!

  16. There is a guy I work with who I can’t tell if he’s interested. I have a crush on him and all our co workers know it. (Verdict still out whether he is single). We usually make eye contact and will talk when we can. He says wierd things that I get confused about; he stumbles blushes and says never mind when I ask him what he means. How do I know if he is throwing me glances or we just happen to always be looking at each other the same time? What is he’s just naturally a friendly flirty person?

    • It is likely that he is either interested in you or he has feelings toward you that he may not be able to act upon. He may be in a relationship or he may be shy. There are many options. However, if he is blushing around you or glancing at you often, then it is likely that he wants to develop a relationship with you. Speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings and you may find his response to be exactly what you want it to be. Be bold and take charge in this situation, Kaitlyn!

  17. Hey my name is Esther and I need some advice . So two years ago I meet this guy and along the years last year we got really close and I had noticed that he teased me a lot and when people would ask if we were dating he would look at me and blush and this year he was all happy when he saw me and resently he’s been touching my hands like for a handshake or something and after class he stays with me until my friends come And he always smile when he looks at me I transferred to a class he’s in and he had been missing out a lot from school and now he doesn’t and he always sits next to me

    • It is almost certain that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you. If you want to begin a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Let him know that you like that he is sitting next to you and not missing school. This way he will continue to act in the way that he is acting. Remain positive and spend time with him when you are able. Enjoy life, Esther!

  18. Hey,
    I’m Sarah and I’m 20. I have a similar case as Marie.
    There’s a boy in my dutch school. The first day of class I was staring at him and he also stared at me and came closer to talk to me and introduce him self, and he even talked a little bit more about himself. Later he asked me for my Facebook and instagram but I told him that I’m not using both though I’m still using them. Simetime in class he looks at me without backing of (sometime he look at me with a very serious face and and at the end he release somekind of smily face). Now the class is co ing to an end and he asked me if I haven’t still started using my Instagram or facebook and I told him no. After my response he was like yo!! I’m going to loose your contact and I told him not really because I’m in the class whatsapp group and you can stay intouch with me. He has invited me several time to go clubbing or to just go and take a coffee with some friends. But I always bring up some excuses. But the problem here is he never text me privately o whatsapp. And he always come up when we meet up in person. I’m confused because I don’t know if he’s attracted to me or he’s just being nice(one time i caught him staring at my boobs, while i other ocasion at my entire outfit.) So I think it may just be a physical attraction.

    • It is likely that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you. He may want an emotional relationship with you or he may only want a physical relationship with you. If you are not interested in spending time with him, then be clear about your feelings. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then be direct and honest about your thoughts and needs. Be sure to remain mindful of his reactions and his thoughts. Remain positive as you move forward, Sarah.

  19. Hey my name is CRYSTAL and I need some advice . So two years ago I meet this guy and along the years last year we got really close and I had noticed that he teased me a lot and when people would ask if we were dating he would look at me and blush and this year he was all happy when he saw me and resently he’s been touching my hands like for a handshake or something and after class he stays with me until my friends come And he always smile when he looks at me I transferred to a class he’s in and he had been missing out a lot from school and now he doesn’t and he always sits next to me I honestly don’t know what to do please help I eel like he likes me buy I want to be sure

    • It is certain that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. If you need him to stop touching you, then be clear with him as well. It sounds as though you have someone who cares about you and wants to be close to you. Enjoy life, Crystal!

  20. Hi, need advice. I have started going to study group meetings it’s a lovely group of people all ages. But there is one guy who stares at me and when i catch him he smiles and doesn’t look away or even care I noticed him I always look away first. Makes me nervous when people stare at me for some reason. Anyways we spoke on Facebook small talk he isn’t one for texting he said he prefers face to face. He asked me for coffee so I went that was fine but I didn’t hear from him for like a week till we seen each other again at the meetings. Still when he sees me he compliments me my hair my clothes etc… he doesnt behave like this with anyone else he acts diffrently with me. He stares at me loads from across the room. But now he asks me to his for lunch every week but when we get to his he invites other people which I don’t mind at all. But hI’m and others be yapping away and I might as well not be there is don’t get why he always asks me. I’m I stopped messaging him on Facebook and ever since out the blue he would text me. I could be possibly over thinking when it’s nothing at all and he is just been a nice guy.

    • It is likely that he thinks that he is being a good friend. He may be a social person and feels more comfortable in groups. You may be over thinking some things. If you find that you want to spend more time with him, then ask him out so you two can be together. Perhaps ask him out on a date and see how your relationship grows. Enjoy life and be bold, Marie!


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